Why Marriage Mentors
are a key element to
effective Marriage Ministry:
by Bob Ruthazer CFLE
(Link for Bio)
They:
Are
Effective: Marriage Mentors trained to use a Relationship Inventory
such as FOCCUS/REFOCCUS
or PREPARE/ENRICH
along with learned relationship skills and their own
marriage experience has proven to be very effective for both
preparation and enrichment.
Save time for
Pastor: Marriage
counseling, premarital or problem, has become a significant
part of most pastor's duties. Under the pastor's
supervision, mentors can perform many of the premarital
preparation previously performed by clergy AND they do it
effectively. Clergy
may also be able to refer certain couples needing
help to the well trained, more experienced Mentors. Pastoral
oversight and training helps to insure that more complex
issues are referred to professionals.
Build Community
and Accountability, both
are important elements in a strong marriage program. Recent research has indicated that some marriage skills
education programs are more effective when led by laity in
congregations rather than mental health professionals.
Create
environment of openness and acceptance
in a congregation. Because
mentors are trained and encouraged to be open and vulnerable
with their own marriage challenges, the couple being helped
is more likely to be open and honest with their need for
growth. This
level of self disclosure would not be appropriate for clergy
or professionals. And,
because a number of couples are being open and honest about
their own relationships, it encourages those experiencing
difficulties to come for help.
Make
a public statement of the importance of strong marriages in your church and
community. By involving mature, more experienced couples in
your marriage ministry not only are their marriages
enriched, but it makes a strong statement to others.
Are an
opportunity to enrich mature couples
who mentor others. Mentors
consistently report that this is the most fulfilling
ministry in which they have been involved.
Are an
effective Strategy for Church Growth and Evangelism. Many churches
with Marriage Mentor Programs report that as couples come to
be married, they develop a relationship and connection to
God and others through their mentors and are touched by the
mentor's testimony.
Resources
for creating a Marriage Mentor Program:
*Testimonies
from Pastors and Mentors
*How
to start mentor program
*Training
opportunities
www.FirstThingsRichmond.org
|
