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Link
to Download brochure pdf (1meg)
by
Dr John Van Epp
www.nojerks.com
What's It All About?
At
one time or another, we have heard someone quote the old
saying,
"LOVE
IS BLIND."
It
might have been at that miserably mismatched wedding;
Or,
when your best friend forgave her boyfriend the hundredth
time for the SAME CRIME;
Or,
when the divorcee, after analytic contemplation, finally saw
the warning signals of his/her dating years;
Or,
perhaps it occurred within the depths of your own soul upon
the realization of a broken trust.
The accumulation of experiences like these lead you to
wonder if you could ever...
FOLLOW YOUR HEART WITHOUT LOSING YOUR
MIND.
In other words, is there really any
explanation for why love is blind? Do we have any hope
for learning how to avoid marrying a jerk? The answer
is a resounding...
YES!!!!
Much, if not all, of what a person will be like can be
clearly predicted during dating. For years, while
conducting counseling sessions with relationally confused
and hurt clients, I searched through self-help books and
thousands of pages of research on the premarital
relationship and the predictors of marital satisfaction.
I gleaned many valuable principles and insights.
However, I did not find any author who organized this
plethora of information into a pictorial model which would
portray the delicate balance between your mind and heart.
For your mind needs to know what to look for in order to
shape an accurate profile of the person you are dating.
And your heart needs to know how to keep proper balances
between the bonding forces which form the attachment in your
growing relationship.
Two
of the most common remarks I have heard when counseling
dismayed spouses are:
"I
should have known better..."
and,
"I
saw it when dating, but I just overlooked it..."
I am convinced that these regretful reflections reveal the
two most prevalent sources to an unhealthy, "blinding
love."
The first, as indicated in the first remark, is an
UNDER-DEVELOPED education of the mind. Too many
people simply do not know WHAT to look for when dating.
The second source of minimizing problems is an
OVER-DEVELOPED attachment of the heart. In this
case, too many people simply do not know HOW to keep a
dating relationship in balance.
It was these two needs which led me to develop a system to
follow in the premarital relationship and decision-making
process.
Based upon a thorough review of research pertaining to this
subject, the How
To Avoid Marrying A Jerk
video series EXHAUSTIVELY and HUMOROUSLY describes:
THE
MAJOR AREAS THAT PREDICT WHAT A PERSON WILL BE LIKE IN
MARRIAGE,
and
THE
BONDING FORCES THAT MUST BE KEPT IN BALANCE AS A
RELATIONSHIP GROWS.
Link
to Download brochure pdf (1meg)
For
a Program Outline go to: www.nojerks.com
Comment
by Bob Ruthazer, CFLE: This is an excellent practical
program for singles that "answers the questions they
are asking"
... it gives them hope that they can
identify a prospective lifetime mate in a world of
uncertainty.
(For
Churches it is best coupled with good Biblical teaching about
marriage and sex such as Love
Sex and Relationships Book and 8 week Video Curriculum by
Dean Sherman, it makes a well rounded program for College
and Singles as well as older Youth Groups.)
"A
Lasting Promise" couples workshop followed by
Marriage Mentoring using FOCCUS
or PREPARE Inventory complete the "ideal preparation for
marriage".
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